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The Opposite of Loneliness: Essays and Stories
by Marina Keegan

Published: 2014-04-08
Hardcover : 240 pages
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"'The Opposite of Loneliness' by Marina Keegan A collection of essays and stories on everything from Internet envy to exterminators. The author died in a car crash two years ago, shortly after her Yale graduation. Just read this."--TheSkimm

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"'The Opposite of Loneliness' by Marina Keegan A collection of essays and stories on everything from Internet envy to exterminators. The author died in a car crash two years ago, shortly after her Yale graduation. Just read this."--TheSkimm

An affecting and hope-filled posthumous collection of essays and stories from the talented young Yale graduate whose title essay captured the world’s attention in 2012 and turned her into an icon for her generation.

Marina Keegan’s star was on the rise when she graduated magna cum laude from Yale in May 2012. She had a play that was to be produced at the New York International Fringe Festival and a job waiting for her at the New Yorker. Tragically, five days after graduation, Marina died in a car crash.

As her family, friends, and classmates, deep in grief, joined to create a memorial service for Marina, her unforgettable last essay for the Yale Daily News, “The Opposite of Loneliness,” went viral, receiving more than 1.4 million hits. She had struck a chord.

Even though she was just twenty-two when she died, Marina left behind a rich, expansive trove of prose that, like her title essay, captures the hope, uncertainty, and possibility of her generation. The Opposite of Loneliness is an assem­blage of Marina’s essays and stories that, like The Last Lecture, articulates the universal struggle that all of us face as we figure out what we aspire to be and how we can harness our talents to make an impact on the world.

Editorial Review

J. R. Moehringer
About J. R. Moehringer

J. R. Moehringer, winner of the Pulitzer Prize for feature writing in 2000, is a former national correspondent for the Los Angeles Times. Author of the bestselling memoir, The Tender Bar, he is also the co-author of Open by Andre Agassi. His most recent publication is Sutton, published in 2012.


J. R. Moehringer on Marina Keegan

I never met Marina Keegan, but when I learned of her death I felt as if I'd known her well. We belonged to several of the same tribes. We were both Yalies. We were both from the Northeast. Both Irish, both writers. We walked some of the same paths, probably sat in the same chairs. So it was as if Iâ??d lost a close cousin, or even a kid sister.

Then I read her work. In that terrible week, as media outlets posted her essays, as people around the world reposted them, I read every word with a sinking, quickening heart. The first news reports, I felt, had been wrong - this wasnâ??t simply a promising young writer, this was a prodigy, a rare rare talent, still raw, still evolving, but shockingly mature. From the few things sheâ??d published in her brief life I could project a remarkable career, a line of words stretching far into the future, words that would have thrilled and enlightened, words that might have changed peopleâ??s lives. As I grieved for her family, her friends, her boyfriend, I also grieved for the global community of readers who would never know the pleasure and excitement of a brand new book by Marina Keegan.

Marina Keegan

All of which made me think there should be, there must be, at least one book with Marinaâ??s name on the spine. Publishers arenâ??t eager to take chances these days, but I hoped that one would have the guts, the heart, to make a slim, posthumous collection of Marinaâ??s stories and essays and poems. I could actually see the book in my mind, stacked on the front table of a sunlit bookstore, perhaps the Yale bookstore, where Iâ??m sure Marina dreamed about her work appearing one day.

A year later, it came in the mail, the very book Iâ??d seen in my mind, with the only possible title: The Opposite of Loneliness. I studied the striking cover photo and felt a wave of sorrow and joy. Then I sat down and read it and that sorrow-joy feeling became my constant companion over the next several days.

This is a book full of wonders. This is a book full of sentences that any writer, 21 or 101, would be proud to have authored. This is a book that will speak to young readers, because it expresses some of that inexpressible anxiety of starting out, of making life's first momentous choices, of wanting and fearing and needing and hoping and dreading everything at the same time. It will also speak to older readers, because itâ??s an inspiring reminder of youthâ??s brimming energy, its quivering sense of possibility.

Young people get a bad rap for thinking theyâ??re immortal, and acting accordingly, but Marina dwelled on the end. Hers, civilizationâ??s, the sunâ??s. â??And time, that takes survey of all the world, must have a stop.â?? She must have heard her beloved adviser Harold Bloom expound many times on Hotspurâ??s line, and clearly she took it to heart, personalized it. Savor every half-second, she seemed to be saying, to herself, to her readers, and her meditations on death, once charmingly precocious, now feel breathtakingly premonitory. Describing a group of fifty whales beached near her house on Cape Cod, she laments that their songs donâ??t transmit on land, and thus they canâ??t communicate their final thoughts. â??I imagined dying slowly next to my mother or a lover, helplessly unable to relay my parting message.â??

Such was her fate. And yet it wasn't, not really. This book is her parting message, exquisitely relayed.

And itâ??s not a mournful message. Thereâ??s so much light and humor here. In the title essay alone I hear glimmers of Lorrie Moore, Ann Beattie, Fran Lebowitz. For example, when Marina worries that other kids are sprinting ahead of her, embarking on fabulous careers while sheâ??s still clinging to the cocoon of Yale. â??Some of us have focused ourselves. Some of us know exactly what we want and are on the path to get it; already going to med school, working at the perfect NGO, doing research. To you I say both congratulations and you suck.â??

My favorite passage might be this gorgeous burst of nostalgia, this prose poem about the bright college years. â??When the check is paid and you stay at the table. When itâ??s four a.m. and no one goes to bed. That night with the guitar. That night we canâ??t remember. That time we did, we went, we saw, we laughed, we felt. The hats.â??

The hats. That tiny sentence was the first raindrop before the deluge, a tickling hint of all that was to come. How many 21-year-olds are capable of a line so sure-handed, so precisely and comically placed? The only other two-word sentence I can think of that had me laughing aloud and shaking my head was in Lolita. (Humbert summarizing his motherâ??s demise: â??Picnic, lightning. â??)

If Iâ??d met Marina, Iâ??d have urged her to keep these first hopeful essays handy, cherish their energy, refer to them whenever beset by despair and doubt. Instead Iâ??ll have to give that advice to her readers.

I also might have told Marina that we do have a word for the opposite of loneliness. Itâ??s called reading. Again, Iâ??ll have to tell her readers. This book reminds us: as long as there are books, weâ??re never completely alone. Open it anywhere and Marinaâ??s voice leaps off the page, uncommonly honest, forever present. With this lovely book always at hand, we and Marina will never be completely apart.

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by piper0922 (see profile) 02/18/16
This book is probably a great selection for young writers or college students to read.

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Best suited for readers in their early to mid 20's. Immature writing that had the author lived probably would've matured as she aged & gathered some life experience outside of her entitled sheltered life.... (read more)

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