Introduction

Based on Zam’s essay in The New York Times’ Modern Love, The Pleasure Plan is a memoir and sexual healing guide.

In her forties, Laura married the man of her dreams?after a life-long search. Everything was picture-perfect, except . . . the author’s “hooha hang-ups” included chronic low libido and physical pain. She suffered silently, ashamed of feeling “bedroom broken.”

Determined to finally fix her sensual self, Laura embarked on a wild odyssey?30 pleasure-enhancing methods, including Tantra, hypnosis, and brazen trauma recovery.

The Pleasure Plan empowers women to speak up, seek help, and take charge of their own erotic potential.

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Prologue

Every Hooha Hang-Up in the DSM



August 2011

"Maybe you’re just not a very sexual person,” says Dr. Fay in a slow Southern drawl. I have come to this office to save my
new marriage. After thirty years of searching, I’ve found a man I love who loves me back—at forty-eight. I never had reciprocity before, meaning a real relationship. But now I do. With Kurt, my miracle husband. ... view entire excerpt...

Discussion Questions

1. In The Pleasure Plan, Laura tells a story, from her twenties, about wanting to be sexy versus wanting to have sex. She explores how these desires intersect throughout the book. What is your understanding of sexiness? What is your under- standing of sexual desire?

2. In Chapter 9, Laura visits the house where she was sexually abused as a four-year-old. Was this a wise move? Have you ever done anything daring, or unusual, to face your own demons?

3. In Chapter 10, Laura sees a trauma therapist who tells her that as long as she has agency (a sense of personal empowerment) she doesn’t have any significant trauma residue. Do you agree with this assessment?

4. In Chapter 17, Laura learns that she has vaginal atrophy. Is atro- phy (or GSM) something you were aware of ? Is it an issue you speak about with your friends, family, or others in your circle?

5. Laura’s mother plays a crucial role in this book. Would you have enjoyed having a mom like Harriet, Laura’s mom? Why? Why not?

6. Laura explores two naked treatments toward the end of the book: a private Tantra session and Betty Dodson’s Body- sex workshop. Did you find these adventures intriguing? Extreme? Could you see yourself doing something similar? Why? Why not?

7. In Chapter 19, Laura invites her sexual problems into bed with her, in order to understand what they all require. Do you think
this was a wise move? Could you see yourself doing something similar?

8. Laura takes a circuitous route to healing and does not always follow through with treatments. Did you find this frustrating at times? If you were her friend, what would you have said to her during this journey?

9. Which curative adventure do you think helped Laura the most, in terms of healing? What about in terms of her relationship?

10. What is your biggest take away from The Pleasure Plan?

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